what would you choose?

if you die, what will you like to see?

1) your dearest beloved and those who know you crying, heartbreaking to your death, always keep you in their mind and sad forever?

or

2) hope there is a magic antidote which can make them forget you, forget your death, forget the sadness of losing you, they can live happily but you will be forgotten.

what will you choose?

hoping them remember you forever, feel heart pain whenever they recall you;
giving them the antidote, be noble of forgiving no one of your beloved remember your death, as long as no one of your beloved cry for you;

most of us may choose neither one of them as they may too extreme. people prefer their beloved will always remember them whenever they recall; they will feel sad and heart pain but not too much; they will forget me gradually but not too soon.

though i ask this question, in fact, i myself do not have an answer too. if you are interest please leave me your number i will tell you when i die. it may take more than 60 years...