看事情真的不能只看表面

http://tw.news.yahoo.com/article/url/d/a/080226/17/u6ro.html

http://www.ptt.cc/bbs/Gossiping/M.1204102249.A.08E.html

你会相信那一边呢？是素有“制造台湾新闻乱象的源头”-爱断章取义的媒体记者们？还是当事人的在PPT的自白（或是狡辩）？

一直以来，我喜欢看台湾Kimo的新闻；不论是政治方面、台湾民生问题或是综艺八卦，Kimo都是我的首选华文新闻来源。

但是，今天在我看了一些有关PPT与台湾记者之间的瓜葛讯息；比照了所谓的“官方新闻”和PPT里的消息。我觉得，看事情真的不能只看表面，尤其是当消息来源总爱断章取义。相信从今天起，我将会抱持着不信任或姑且一听的心态看待新闻-不论是对台湾方面，或是其他国家的新闻。

This recalled me a Japanese Drama Series I had watched when I was young (sorry, I couldn't remember its title). In that drama series, it showed me a piece of the real world in the industry of mass media.　Perhaps, 不折手段might be the most suitable words for Taiwan mass media right now??

我想我懂你了

现在，我正处于和你当年所处的立场类似，面对同样的情况，同样的心情（？）不同的只是现在角色换了人。
You are not in the picture anymore
我想，那时侯的你心情应该就是这样吧！
就宛如鸡肋一般，嚼而无味、弃之可惜。
现在，我好像正重蹈你的覆辙，重蹈你这一个伪善者的覆辙。。。
天啊！我不想像你！

So, I need help!

我要回去

去一趟心灵净化研究所、见一回我的心之归属——再加强，再确定一轮我们人该有的原则

因为，我不想被我现处的环境给_了。

NUS construction site tragedy - 3 Died 2 Injured

The crane (Green and White parts) toppled over; At the very right hand side, Civil Defence rescue team were trying (to pull the bodies out?) The only one bus stop of School Of Business
The crane (red parts behind the 3 stripes) hurt the tree badly!
Reporters are asking our Campus Security Guards questions.

Channel NewsAsia

SINGAPORE: Three workers were killed when a crane collapsed on them at a construction site at the National University of Singapore (NUS) on Friday afternoon.

The 60—metre crane toppled over at 2.15pm, crashing into a bus stop and several motorcycles that were parked nearby.

By the time the Civil Defence rescue team arrived, three workers had died. One of them, a Chinese national, was found beside the wreckage. The other two were crushed underneath.
One of the trapped men was a 47—year—old Singaporean crane operator and the other was an Indian national.

It took rescue officers 45 minutes to extricate them a job made difficult by the tangle of steel bars protruding from the ground.

Two other workers with minor abrasions were rushed to the nearby National University Hospital.

The Manpower Ministry (MOM) said the main contractor, Kimly Construction, has not had any fatal accidents over the last two years.

Work on the NUS Alumni Complex is scheduled to be completed this April, but MOM has ordered a full stop work order while investigations are being carried out.

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/cna/20080222/tap-330527-231650b.html

I heard of a great bang and thought that there was a cleaner's pushcart toppled over out of the classroom. I never expect a life-taking accident happened in my campus. This is the 2nd time I heard of campus fatal accident. The first one is in SP while I was a year2 student; a junior fell off the Engineering building accidentally. This time, it is worsen, 3 lives were taken.

Amitabha

It is too late to apologize -Timbaland

People always said, "Like father, like son." (有其父必有其子or有其母必有其女)

I believe it as we get our very first learning from our parents. What they do, what they think will deeply influence our mindset and thinking and our ways of handling issues. Of course, we can't deny that further development of the kid and environmental issue play their role as well. However, what I want to emphasize here is the first point mentioned above.

I heard of a story, a teen's father has abused her mother since she was young. When she grows up, she wishes to find a nice husband who is totally different to her father. She thought she found. Unfortunaly, her prince charming is exactly same as her father. You may wonder, well, it is coincidence. Perhaps, it may be. But, what I heard of is, unconsciously, kid will find a guy/girl who is alike to his/her parents to be his/her spouse.

It tells how strong is the impact of our parents to us.

Share with you my own story:
Since I was young, my father always telling us, never ever say sorry! It is useless.

Don't misunderstand my father first, let's move on.
He told us,
"Apologize is useless after you did something wrong or bad (as you hurt the other(s))"
His concept is:

1. You know its consequence, but you still make the decision, so Why apologize? It is fake or called "deliberate".
2. You do not know its consequence, but you still make the decision. Then what is the point to apologize? Like what he always says, "what don't you ask first? what's the use of your mouth?"
3. In the end, you know you did hurt other(s) then you apologize. It is useless and meaningless because the consequence (hurt or damage) exists.

Be thoughtful, that is what my father teaching us.

See, how strict and correct he is!
Ya, I learn from him. And I adopted his learning wholly. When I was young, I never say sorry. Sounds bad, isn't it? Don't misunderstand me, ha-ha... Not because I am rude or stubborn, it is simply because I never ever do a very wrong/bad thing to others. (Social interaction such as joking is not counted ok?)

I myself feel nothing wrong to his teaching. Moreover, I feel grateful to have my parents. They give me the best teaching of being a good person/human being. I would not say that they are perfect, but they did tell me what is our limit and what is our duty. From them, I know the words of benevolence, kind, forgive, generous, humor and more and more. And I would not say that I am perfect under their teaching. Like I mentioned earlier, further development of the kid and environmental issue matter as well. Sounds like I am very bad? Hm, I am not. Ha-ha...

So, bear in mind, before you want to apologize, why don't you think carefully and then make your decision with a thoughtful mind? Then the ending will be a beautiful scene: everyone is happy, you do not feel sorry, result of your decision may be perfect as well.

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It sounds great above, right? Ironically, in this real world, it does not work. Even myself, I need to say sorry to my family for my impatience, sometimes. To my friends, so far, I think I am nice to them especially girls. :p However, some of them betrayed my trust (pathetic, isn't it? we can never expect people as same as us since we are from different family background). However, it would not affect my ability of trust.

note: when I am writing this post, my mood is superb good. So this post is just a sudden thought to my dad, not referring to anyone but using a current issue only. So just enjoy my post. Cheers.

Liar does exist for no reason

They lied. They betrayed. They treated you like a fool. What will you do?

Forgive and Forget. That's what most of friends said. It can be rephrased to a several way.

"Forgive them as I am not petty." "Forgive them as I am forgivable" "Forgive them as They may not want to do so." "Forgive them as They are unimportant." "Forgive them is to Spare myself."

"Forget their sin, but No more trust and still make friend with them." "Forget it as Nobody is perfect." "Forget them wholly." "Forget is the best gift to myself."

I am not hypocrite. Unless you can explain and convince me, please do not expect me to forgive a betrayer. Besides, hurt does exist. How do you amend a broken heart after you whacked it?

One thing puzzled me. Why lie? If that is a big deal, I can understand. But, yours is just a trivial issue, why lie? You make yourself look like a hypocrite. The most pathetic is I do not know how to not forgive you.

Nag Nag Nag

I spent a meaningful, happy 初七 with my dearest parents and 2 sisters: Wendy and Candy and my little nephew, Ryan in Sentosa. I played as a tour guide, leading us to the places such as Imbiah Lookout, Underwater World and Dolphin Lagoon. Although everything was going smoothly, I was not satisfied as I did not play my role well. How could I frustrate easily? It is a very BAD manner. I will improve myself.

Although I spent a very happy Sentosa trip with my parents, I have to say goodbye to them in the night as they are going back to Malaysia. There is only one word describing my feeling - sux! I hate separation.

I was packed by a very busy study schedule... However, at this period of time, my mind, which is out of my control, keeps thinking about fanciful things. Perhaps, I should not have any sweet memories as they bring me bitterness in the end. If I could, I would erase my memories-everything about that fanciful... I AM TIRED OF IT.

It's time to make it work!

after CNY

After this CNY, I found that I have to improve myelf not only in time management but also risk control; I should plan well my schedule so that I can do better, fortunately I got dage's help or else it must be a big trouble to me (Again, thanks dage here). When I am in dilemma, I should think more carefully and with a great consideration before I make the decision; minimizing any possible disturbance or hurts to others.

To zhai nan & shu sheng, my guess is correct: he betrayed my trust. Congrats me? ha-ha...

memoriable pits:
chu1: mornin=281,3temples,449; day=mcd,setia,ali,13; nite=ali,y&c,2teas330
chu2: bainian,yifen,okc,tyc,makanali,apc,benut,pontian,naggydriver,mahjong4
chu3: bainian,5jiu,okc,sky,bp,therry,snowwhite,wenyuan,weiyang,foodstalls,mahjong9
chu4: henggang,setia,noisydinner,904,449
chu5: yumcha,449,lost,nus,449,dinner
chu6...

3 days before CNY

The ordering of feeling today is nervous, tiring, HAPPY and bu-shuang.

**Nervous**
I need to meet up my sister's junior to pass him some baby stuff so that he can bring them back to my elder sister who is currently in Beijing. As I seek for his help, I do not like to be late. However, as I always in "slow motion", I almost could not cacth on time. Fortunately, I reach the meeting point before him. (Bling Bling! Ha-ha)

**tiring**
When I reached home around 7p.m., I have to do the cleaning in the kitchen. However, cleaning does not make me tire. In fact, I finished my work in a high spirit. What makes me tiring physically is frustration.

**HAPPY**
Being prompted by a sudden impulse, I did a small action. Although it is small, its impact is huge. It brings me a sweetness of happiness. I know, I always know that WHAT I desire.

**Bushuang**
However, this sweetness had been modestly destroyed; I hate been framed. But, now, I feel better (after 3 minutes). Perhaps, 说者无心，听者有意. I could not expect others to know me well, right? Since we do not know each other well. Anyway, as long as I know that I am doing my best on my work, no intention on hurting anyone, it should not be a problem to let people know me well.

This issue recalled my worst interpersonel experience: a girl (I do not mind if you like to call her B) who always twisted my words.

I love Buddha because I learn a lot of knowledge and they are proven accurately.
心存善念，方得正果。

I am fortunate of having my best friends. Dajie, Eileen muacks la! ha-ha...

My Saturday

I spent the whole Saturday for a simulated assessment centre. It is a chargeable workshop to simulate different type of interviews for the aim of improving our interviewing skills when we face them.

Before I attended that workshop, I was wondering that will it useful or relevant to me? If it does, why none of my friends want to join me? They suspected its usefulness. Besides, it is a bit scary to be alone, attending this kind of event myself. Fortunately, I am "tough" enough to take this invisible pressures and able to work it out myself because it is a very useful learning lesson. I am able to learn the skills, the tactics I wish to know during the interview. It helps me to clear more or less my puzzles about what the interviewers want from us. In other words, what I can do to exel myself in the group interview such as group exercise. Some

Conclude: It is worth it. I didn't throw my money to drain.